By: Anna Merezhko, April 14, 2017
Stefan Molyneux is a blogger, public speaker, and host of Freedomain Radio Podcast. He has a B.A. and M.A. in history from McGill University and University of Toronto. He spoke in several of his videos about his father abandoning them and growing up in an abusive home with his elder brother.
After blogging about Stefan Molyneux’s Youtube video, “The Truth About Beauty and the Beast,” I tried to find out more information on Molyneux to better understand his misogyny. I stumbled upon another video of his on his website, defoo.org.
The video was made, I think, in an attempt to explain a psychological concept that Stefan Molyneux and his wife promote. The website advocates “Divorcing your Family of Origin.” Their mission statement is “ to educate children on the necessity of DeFOOing: meaning to ostracize their abusive parents and family. We know that all evil in the world can be prevented through what we call ‘peaceful parenting.’”
He posted a video onto their website titled “Stefan Molyneux vs. Hugh Molyneux.” In this almost 50-minute video consisting of photos of his brother, his brother’s family, and a slow-motion video of his brother talking, Stefan airs the dirty laundry between his brother, his mother, and their families.
However messed up Stefan’s brother was, I find it inexcusable that he would post pictures of his brother and his brother’s family in a rant solely against the brother. If this were a video strictly speaking to the necessity of “Divorcing Your Family of Origin,” I would be sympathetic. Instead, this rant about a thirty-year-old feud between two brothers talks very little about psychology.
The video shows decades worth of Stefan’s pain. I found it very interesting that he seemed completely fine with trash-talking his brother to an audience as enormous as the internet. This seems like something you would talk about with a therapist, It seems revengeful and bitter of Stefan that he would tell stories of his and his brother’s childhood, and read out-loud emails exchanged between the two of them.
In all honesty, I understand this pain. I understand why he needed to air that pain out but it is horribly vindictive of him to let the world see this side of his brother. Everything he said might be entirely true, but he is letting the internet become “judge, jury, and executioner,” (so to speak) of something that they couldn’t possibly approach fairly (because this was simply from Stefan’s point of view.)
Why would someone air this out unless they wanted to be reassured that they are in the right and the other party is in the wrong? Either way, I got a pretty good idea of where Stefan’s anger and resentment came from.
He holds a lot of resentment to his abusive mother. At a men’s rights movement, “A Voice for Men,” Molyneux argued that violence in the world is the result of how women treat their children and that “if we could just get people to be nice to their babies for five years straight, that would be it for war, drug abuse, addiction, promiscuity, STDs… Almost all of that would be eliminated because they all arise from dysfunctional early childhood experiences, which are all run by women.” (http://time.com/2949435/what-i-learned-as-a-woman-at-a-mens-rights-conference/)
A light bulb went off in my head after I read that quote. Whatever trauma he endured during his childhood, I do not make light of that, but it is clear that he detaches himself of any responsibility of his actions and blames them on his mother. In the quote above, he accuses the entirety of womankind for STDs, drugs, abuse, promiscuity, addiction and war. Basically, women are the incarnation of evil.
The thing is, we each have a choice as we grow. When we see the way our parents’ mistakes, we make a conscious choice whether to be the opposite of what they are displaying, or to be the same. Even if there were perfect families, people still have the freedom to choose their lifestyle.
Once he blamed the entirety of the world’s problems on one gender, it is easy to see how his childhood upbringing played a part. It is even easier to not take anything he says seriously, because for someone who is so educated in history, he knows very little of what men have wrought on this earth.